10 Things I’d Tell My 20 Year Old Self
This is one of my favourite posts, mainly because it really helped me to understand some of the struggles that I have had in the past – some of which I’m still working on.
I enjoyed my 20’s massively! I got a property, had a great career and formed some really strong relationships, but there are some things that I could’ve done a hell of a lot better if I had been aware of them. Some of these things were taught to me by either friends or family, others I decided myself were true. Regardless, if I knew and DID the things below more consistently I could’ve been a lot more successful.
So here goes…
1. Don’t be the grey man
Always try to stand out. No one ever notices or remembers the person in the middle. Try your hardest to be way out in the front, or be clinging on for dear life at the back.
2. Don’t take things personally
There will always be people who disagree with your point of view. They might not like what you do, or how you do it. It doesn’t mean that they don’t like you as a person. Brush it off as soon as possible and move on.
3. Slow down
You want to get to the top as fast as you can, but there will be moments where you can stop, pause and appreciate what you have done. In those moments, slow down, smile at yourself and appreciate what you’ve accomplished.
4. Smile more
Try not to be so closed off, a genuine smile is a way of opening up and it gives other people permission to smile back. It improves relationships, form new ones quicker and makes you feel better.
5. Be more interested in what other people have to say
You have your whole life to listen to yourself spouting your opinion, so ask other people for theirs more often. It will help others feel more understood and it’ll help you learn more
6. If you feel good help someone else, if you feel shit help yourself
When you are truly feeling great about yourself, help someone who is in a lesser position than you. The more you can do that, the better you will feel. No one likes to feel shit, but it does happen. When it does, recognise it and take the time for yourself to recover.
7. Look at what you want first, then the price
Go through life looking for what you want, then work out how you are going to get it. Looking at the price first means that you are going to compare it to things you haven’t got or haven’t been able to afford, it slows you and your decisions down.
8. Make more decisions
I once heard that decision making is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger it gets. Every decision you make will be good or bad, but if you don’t make them, then your life can’t change and get any better.
9. Don’t try to please people
The more you try to please people, the more they will take advantage of you, meaning you’ll get frustrated and angry with helping them. Try to help or serve people instead, this may mean that you piss them off along the way, but it always means that you are coming from a place where you can give genuine help and have no resentment.
10. Take a moment to thank people who have helped you
There are so many people supporting you in your life that you aren’t even aware of. So if you recognise that one of these helpers is supporting you in any way, take some time out of your day to go and thank them.
So these are my 10, have a think, what would yours would be? What 10 solid bits of advice would you tell your younger self?
Look forward to hearing them