Are you currently looking for the next best thing, even though you know that you should appreciate what you currently have?
This may help…
Here is a technique that I’ve used occasionally to help me appreciate the people in my life and the things that I have. To be clear this is not my technique, in fact I have only just discovered that this is something that ancient philosophers used thousands of years ago.
It is Contemplating Loss – Taking a moment to contemplate losing the things and the people who are closest to us.
Sounds quite grim doesn’t it…
So why do it? Because it is designed to help us appreciate and recognise that nothing is truly ours. It reminds us that nothing including ourselves will be around forever. Every family member, every person in our lives and every thing that we own, can and will be taken from us in an instant. Maybe not now, but most definitely in the future. At some point we will eat our last meal, take our last breath, say ‘I love you’ one last time and we can never know when that will be.
Now i’m not advocating that we do this all the time! It would be depressing, upsetting and would have us catastrophising about everything we do and everyone we meet. But I do think that spending a moment to engage in this exercise can be a useful tool to help bring us back into the now and appreciate what we DO have.
A lot of us, for the most part, are already living our ‘dream life’ but are lacking the appreciation for it and instead of spending each day enjoying what we have; we are spending our time complaining about the past or chasing bigger dreams, which leaves is feeling deflated and unsatisfied.
Let me know what you think. If you found this useful or have got something to add then i’d love to hear your take on it